I’ve recently had my most bizarre blog related experience yet. A woman I have know for over 30 years chose to publicly rant at me and then unfriend me on Facebook. The reason? Well, from what I could understand from her angry message, she didn’t like my blog.
This person isn’t the first to dislike my blog and certainly wont be the last, however I have to admit to being a little taken back by the bile in her reply to my review of the Waybridge in Swindon, considering she was in no way attached to the venue. In fact, to my knowledge she has never been there, however my reporting that the service and some of the food wasn’t up to standard really seemed to offend her.
Now, lets think about this.
I do share my blog posts on my personal social media, as I’m sure most bloggers do. However, I do not nag my friends to read it, I do not repeatedly ask them to like my page or join me on Twitter, nor do a hold a gun to their head and demand they spend their valuable time reading what I have written. So why, knowing from experience that she did not like the content of my blog, did this person continue to read it to a point where she felt she needed to explode at me for “slagging off” businesses before metaphorically slamming a door in my face?
My theory is that some people like to be offended.
I do not claim that I have never fallen into this trap myself as I know I have, but some people, on finding out that something offends them, will go out of their way to continue to be offended. Sometimes they will even go to lengths to track down something that might offend them to see if it does.
A fantastic example of this happened a few years ago. A radio presenter ran a feature in his show that offended one or two people. This was no big deal, however, those one or two people made sure word got out and as a result hundred of people went online to find a recording of the feature, just to see if they were also offended. They were, and it made the national news, causing the presenter to be fired. I’m not condoning the feature just suggesting that the people who sought out the recording wanted to be offended.
So, if my blog or my opinions offend. Please feel free to stop reading. Go to the park, make a cup of tea, or watch a movie instead. If you really want to let me know I’m wrong then put together an argument and feel free to leave a comment. I love a good debate and am quite open to having my mind changed. But if all you want to do is have a rant at how unreasonable I am or call me names then please know that this tells people more about you than it does about me.
I have to admit that I was a little offended by this persons lack of courtesy in the manner she drew my attention to the fact that she didn’t like my blog, but what am I going to do about it? Well, obviously I’m going to use it as inspiration for a blog post!
Steve Hughes, who I have had the pleasure to see live has a brilliant comedy sketch about being offended and I highly recommend looking it up on YouTube.